COMPLETELY RELAX

Relax, relax.... we seem understand the meaning of the word, but in fact many people just 'seemed' relaxed/relaxing but is not 'really' relaxed. How this..?
I often be bothered with questions concerning the relaxing of my students, according to mine relax is just relax....

It is very understandable if the questions appears, because in Aikido training, we MUST RELAX..!! both, individuals and the atmosphere of the training...
I wonder that there are practitioners of Aikido still practice with grunt, and rage in hearts and cranky because their partners do not relax... ( I still also.... hehehehe...)
or when there is a student or partner who has 'a little strange in behaviour', we become so irritated or so... Arrogant and imperious also can affect the value of relax....

This is one aspect that would be achieved from practicing Aikido,
Exercising patience and relax while the problem appears...

When a technique would be done, Shite/Nage and Uke are still 'relax', when in Kamae Position they are still relax... but when the attack came....? tadaaaa...! the relax was lost!!
to be changed as a fighter, hungry to kill... wish to throw and lock and defeat their partner...
Moreover, if the attack is a grip or grab, both one hand or two hands (ryote tori, morote tori).
The hands that attacked difficult to move even with the help of 'fully muscle power', sometimes still difficult to apply the technique...

In fact, if we can Keep 'one point' and Keep 'weight underside', the relax condition that we expected will occur.
We often trapped by the term of relax which meant 'weak', okay, that's relax too, but in the same time we often not keeping the center (one point) and not keeping weight underside so when the attack came, the relax condition is gone...

To help understand the condition of relaxing, we can train the 'Unbendable arm'.
Just lift the arm to the front or slightly diagonally to the side with a relaxed, not tense the muscle. Ask a friend to help bend our arm, elbow...
When a friend try to bend our arm so we don't think about the arm or the friend, think only one point, or when we still can not think one point, just think about the pleasant thing...

Or we can use the position we practiced on the topic 'Keep one Point'.
On the one hand and the position of one leg lifted (with a relaxed, of course) ask a friend to lower our arms, but do not shocking...
Our thoughts remain on one point..

If you have been trained to exercise both of them, then always keep such condition in each movement / Aikido techniques and in daily life.
Do not forget, the sincere smile can also be very helpful.

So, we do not need to be bothered with the definition of relaxing, as relaxing is just relaxing...., not looks like relaxed, as well as the condition of walking, calm not 'seem' calm..
Muscle is an indicator, but the role is the Mind. Put your mind (or thoughts) at One Point and relax will be achieved.
Practice with diligence and care....

Allohumma 'qod balaghtu, FASHAD..!
O Allah, I have told it, then be my witness..!

Hopefully useful...
Allahu'alam bishshowab...